"People are always saying that change is a good thing. But all they're really saying is that something you didn't want to happen at all... has happened. My store is closing this week. I own a store, did I ever tell you that? It's a lovely store, and in a week it'll be something really depressing, like a Baby Gap. Soon, it'll be just a memory. In fact, someone, some foolish person, will probably think it's a tribute to this city, the way it keeps changing on you, the way you can never count on it, or something. I know because that's the sort of thing I'm always saying. But the truth is... I'm heartbroken. I feel as if a part of me has died, and my mother has died all over again, and no one can ever make it right."
(Kathleen Kelly - You've Got mail)
This is one of my most quoted movies besides The Sandlot and Steel Magnolias! I am thinking of this quote today, as well as one other...
Joe Fox: "It wasn't... personal."
Kathleen Kelly: "What is that supposed to mean? I am so sick of that. All that means is that it wasn't personal to you. But it was personal to me. It's 'personal' to a lot of people. And what's so wrong with being personal, anyway?"
Joe Fox: "Uh, nothing."
Kathleen Kelly: "Whatever else anything is, it ought to begin by being personal."
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Some great thoughts wrapped up in that movie. I wish there were more REAL conversations like that, instead of all the banal cell phone conversations we've each heard too often: "Hi! What are you doing?" "Nothing. What are you doing?" "Nothing."
ReplyDeleteYES! I LOVED that movie those lines.
ReplyDeletethis is true, wonderful post.
ReplyDeleteMs. Annie, is this the truth? hummm..
ReplyDeleteas i was reading this i thought now your store was closing and i didn't even know you had a store! i was thinking, holy crap, not more! and in its way it is more. and that is enough. yup. you've had enough now. next!
ReplyDeletehope things look up soon. at least we still have our fields. can't take them, can they?
xo
erin
Eric - Yes. I think many of us Bloggers are here because we have a wish to go deeper with people. Even though we are just really type and screen here, we are digging, just as sure as if we had a shovel!
ReplyDeleteAmy - I've seen it a dozen times at least. I love the witty typed banter. It is one of the things that drew me to blogging and why the conversation is one of my favorite parts of the process.
Caio - Thank you! I just bought a book of over 2,500 Greatest Things Ever Said, or something like that. Some real gems. I remember watching Bottle Shock and pausing the movie every 5 minutes to write down a quote.
Glenn - The feeling is mine...just how change is often something you didn't want to have happen. And yes...it is personal.
Erin - Sorry to scare ya. My store did close, but that was 15 years ago. I loved that place. It was as a field. I would run my hands over the rows of petaled products as if they were blooming before my eyes. People would pick bouquets and pay me for them. Amazing.
It's always personal, isn't it? I always remember these lines from that movie bc it's so true... it SHOULD be personal, the way we treat each other...
ReplyDeletethat was a great exchange in the movie, and has plenty of wisdom in it.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed the read. As much as we know change will happen, Looking back does make me sad, and remember when it happened, but mostly of what I enjoyed before the change came along.
ReplyDelete"You've Got Mail" is one of my favorite films, too. And, yes - "Whatever else anything is, it ought to begin by being personal."
ReplyDeleteimo the vast majority of people don't care for change and many detest it, and so I think that's why we have the "change is good" thing--to comfort people so they'll look at the other side.
ReplyDeleteHi, Annie... I agree, I think that many of us do blog while looking for deeper meanings... and along the way, write dumb shit like I do... :oD
ReplyDeleteIt (writing) is a process... it is a passing...
~shoes~
seems there are reasons for everything, that is what I've learned and what I've accepted, doesn't mean I can't bitch about it, so join me we'll bitch that sometimes some things just hurt too much hugs and kisses
ReplyDeleteGreat quotes from a good movie!
ReplyDeleteLove you jewelry on Esty.
I haven't seen that movie in forever. I was going to make my wife watch Nick Cage in The Weather Man with me at some point. I wonder now if she's seen Mail, too.
ReplyDeleteShe's so young, my wife, never saw Better Off Dead or knew what I meant the other day when I said, Where's my two dollars!'
Get em young and raise em, I always say.
;)
He's a gentleman. I bet he takes the dishes out of the sink before he pees in it.
He's a boil on the butt of humanity.
(Steel Magnolias, the only movie that made me cry in the theater like a little girl who just lost her puppy)
I do hear you, though. Loss is hard, and it's always personal. Hang in there.
- Eric
Wow, great quotes, but, like Erin, I thought it was you writing until I saw the attribution, and then looked up and saw the quotation marks.
ReplyDeletehey where's my comment, I don't remember what I said....
ReplyDeleteI quote that movie too when people tell me that things aren't personal when they should be, if only to me...
ReplyDeleteBut at the same time I find some comfort, when things go awry, in the fact that some things are utterly impersonal. Some things are like storms, they may rain on my picnic, or destroy a work of love that I have spent the past 20 years working on, but it's impersonal, it's the consequence of my coexisting with something that is completely independent of anything I do or think... And there is a kind of terrible beauty in that.
Phew ... change ... change is hard -- but it's there and happening, all the time, I think. I'm not entirely sure what it's all about, but change is there all right.
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