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Monday, July 18, 2011

Farm Update

I was in the mountains over the weekend without Internet and I couldn't get back to all the comments, however, your support is sweet! You guys rocked the support....seriously! Someone offered to let me work on their Facebook farm, which was neglected and near death. Cute!

An update and point of clarification:

I VOLUNTEERED at the farm. It is not a paying gig...but something I want to do, and have done since we started the thing five years ago. I do their marketing, newsletter, and work at the farm on Saturday mornings. I still have my full time job, and two side jobs.

I did talk to the owner face to face on Thursday. Prayed on the way over that I would be humble, because I was pretty much in my mad place by then. She was unable to tell me specifically what I had not done well or when. I spoke very specifically about how hurt I was and how I thought someone took my speed and efficiency as a sign that I wanted to be done and gone quickly, or that I was not being meticulous in my work. I spoke to that assumption and how it was incorrect. I am task oriented, but it doesn't mean I don't care or that I'm not doing a good job. 

She was willing to see the points I was making and apologized. Came down to it really being my negativity that made her think I didn't want to be there. She assumed I would be relieved at being released from packing duty. I know my black rain cloud can get on people's nerves. I told her just to slap me upside the head with it. I'm not that delicate. She said she would in the future. When we left, the plan was to have Farmer Bob contact me when he had extra work in the fields to do. I've never made any secret of the fact that I would rather be working in the dirt than in the "kitchen" with the women. I'll be more conscious of my attitude. She won't make assumptions. All relationships have ups and downs. All relationships require work. We have a little work to do, and we both want to.

17 comments:

  1. :)!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes! I love it when relationships continue and healing is possible. Yes, Annie :)! You go, girl.

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  2. Communication is key to progress. Good for you!

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  3. in the end (well, in this end, as there are so many endings to everything, which really makes no endings at all) this is something good. yes, i do believe so. work and growth, just like farming.

    xo
    erin

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  4. great update. i myself might have bolted after how you were treated, without any questions or curiosity of your interest. you were strong and correct, seeking out an audience and making your points. terrific news:)

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  5. I smile. I was thinking before, you are much more pursistant than was expressed in the previous explanation.

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  6. What growth is there in running with our tail between our hurt feelings? I'm trying to be bigger than my emotions. Trying...working...

    Amy, Marty, Eric - I appreciate you!

    Anthony and Erin - I re-read a post from 2009. There you both were, commenting so long ago. So many endings, yes, but here we still are.

    Ed - Not always, but in this case I felt so...felt wronged, and stood up for myself. At least that's how I see it. Progress :)

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  7. i always did prefer dirt to chatty women, too. tee-hee. good for you, my annie. you're always welcome on my farm, anytime...

    love you,
    marion

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  8. You both are handling it then with maturity and grace.

    I'd rather be in the kitchen! Ha! :-)

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  9. i love it - i'm glad you didn't give up! it's hard to be humble sometimes, you set a great example for the rest of us

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  10. I'm so glad you went back to talk it out, that's who you are that's make makes you so extraordinary, and extraordinary people occasionally have to let it out, I'm not insultable so let it allout on me and I'll hug you, hard lol I am happy it got resolved

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  11. Good for you having the guts to talk it out
    and be humble enough to hear her.

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  12. the "You" was the solution all along, not the problem...

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  13. What a wonderful story. I am glad to have met you Annie. You are as sweet as you are beautiful.

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  14. Marion - You are always my Cheerleader....a true friend. Thanks sweetie.

    Jamie - No shame in that. Sometimes I think that I am warped somehow in my wants and needs. Ha!

    EcoGrrl - Ain't that a song??? ♫Oh Lord, it's hard to be humble....when you're perfect in every way..♫ Lol!

    Lorraine - I love your non-insultableness. I try to be equally so. It just gets us nowhere to be insulted, although at times it's hard not to be.

    Cynthia - Never seen myself as one with guts...but I think I'm growing some :)

    Glenn - You're sweet. Always. Lucky Boss. Tell her I said so.

    Travis - Glad to have "met" you too! You've introduced me to some great music!!!

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  15. I need a little relationship healing with something in my life right now. I'm going to try to be inspired by this...although my mad is still lingering...

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  16. There's a lot of falsity out there ... people who grumble a lot are often the most sincere -- and they have their feet a bit more on the ground. Of course, I grumble a lot, so perhaps that is why I say this.

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Thank you for listening.